Dr Love's Prescriptions for Love

Earth hour is the perfect opportunity to help save the planet and to help promote love! Turn off the lights, light a few candles and enjoy some romantic time with your loving partner! Perhaps that is why families were so big in the old days? My dad came from a family of ten brothers and sisters.

We used to joke that although our grandparents did not have internet or big screen TV’s, they did have each other and lots of passion when the lights went out.

Tonight is the perfect opportunity to play Syncrohearts with your sweetheart!

The new generations are breeding loving men. Most of us guys learned our lessons about love from our fathers.  Our fathers picked up their love tips from our grandfathers. There  were not many love experts in our family. My dad did the best he could, based on what he knew. 

Now I have the opportunity to teach my son about unconditional love. I can teach this love lesson by being the best role model for my son. By expressing unconditional love  in my relationship, he will learn that love heals.

Have you ever thought about how quickly events in your life can change? The recent massive earthquake in Japan reminds me that life is very precious. As my thoughts and prayers go out to those affected by this tragedy, I feel grateful for all the things in my life.

I hope you feel grateful and blessed with your life too. The little things that bother us, like a spouse not taking the garbage out, or a child not cleaning up their mess, are insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

Love is one of the most important treasures that we have and sometimes we need to remember that life is too short not to love!

Get ready the Olympics are coming to Vancouver, Canada. The athletes have been training hard for years as they have set their sights on the glistening gold metals. They have made enormous sacrifices and poured their dripping sweat and endless energy into reaching this goal. They have wrestled with their own discipline and tested their level of commitment. Some have had to overcome injuries and personal set backs along the way. They have had to discipline their minds and open their hearts to embrace the love of their sport. These athletes know that all the rigorous mental and physical training are an essential part of their journey towards gold.

Can you imagine if we applied this same level of training and commitment in our relationships? We might not be awarded a gold metal, but I am sure there would be a lot of “gold” savings from less settlements. The divorce rate in North America is rising above 50% and this is becoming a global trend. Paris, the city of romance got a lesson in love’s hard knocks last fall, as thousands flocked to the French capital’s first ever divorce fair. In France, nearly one out of two marriages ends in divorce. According to the country’s National Institute of Demographic Studies, more than 130,000 divorces were registered in 2008, as compared with just 50,000 three decades ago. So if the romance capital is not winning gold metals in relationships, perhaps we need to ask ourselves “why”?

What is happening in our relationships? Are we too busy? Do we have our priorities wrong? Are we looking over the fence at greener grass? Perhaps our relationships are suffering from a lack of training? Our busy lifestyles and misaligned priorities can cause relationship stress, but if our athletes can juggle all of their Olympic demands, you would think we could cope with our everyday events. I acknowledge that the athletes have coaches and personal trainers to help keep them on track, but we can ask for help too. There is no shortage of social services, mentors, counselors and therapists to offer relationship advice and support. By the way, the professionals tell us that the grass might seem greener on the other side, but the roots are still the same. In fact, the divorce rate among second marriages is higher than that among first marriages. According to the enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America, the divorce rate is 60% for second marriages and 73% for third marriages. Wow you would think we would have learned our lessons the first or second time around!

I feel it is time that we go for the gold in our relationships! We must stop acting like “armchair athletes” and start getting more active in our relationships. My grandmother used to say that “practice makes perfect” and considering she gave birth to ten children; suggests that there was a lot of “practice” in her home. A training regiment that includes doing kind acts, sending loving thoughts and scheduling dates will be rewarded with more love.

Here are a few exercises to get you started:

• Start your day with a love exercise – say “I love you” three times
• Stretch your mind – send loving thoughts throughout the day
• Raise your heart rate – use your imagination (hint love rewards)
• Play Syncrohearts and you are well on your way to a gold medal!